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Fighting bullying in schools takes planning, support, awareness

My editorial piece in today’s Montreal Gazette criticizes the Quebec government for taking the easy way out with its proposed anti-bullying legislation, Bill 56. Designed to appease parents, it also seems to place the blame on schools for not handling this complex issue properly. But lack of funding and resources, coupled with short-sighted, short-term solutions, have made it difficult for schools to deal with the problem of bullying.

Some of my suggestions from the editorial (you can read the full version here):

When the government asks our kids to “right their wrongs” (according to the  English slogan to be used in their planned $1 million ad campaign), I would ask  Beauchamp to consider doing the same. To give this antibullying legislation hope  of succeeding, she needs to consider some of the following things:

Help schools out with antibullying plan templates that have been developed  through best practices. Offer them resources assembled by a panel of experts  commissioned for this task. Schools can use these to put their plans together,  so it doesn’t become a costly (and ineffective) makework exercise for school  staff with no training in this area. Templates already exist for school  social-media policies, bullying prevention and handling policies.

Put money into support services. Bullying doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Bullies  need more than punishment – they need help to understand the consequences of  their actions and rehabilitate. They need consistent, patient support from  teachers, guidance counsellors and, sometimes, mental-health practitioners to  learn impulse control, good judgment, empathy and conflict resolution. The  students who are bullied often need help as well. Being labelled a victim can be  incredibly disempowering, and it’s likely these children were already  vulnerable. Ideally, these support services will be active in prevention:  teaching tolerance and conflict resolution, particularly for students identified  as at-risk for bullying or being bullied.

Invest in digital citizenship education. Banning Facebook on campus is the equivalent of sticking one’s head in the sand.  Since today’s bullies often make use of cellphones, email and social media,  students need to be taught how to use these powerful communication tools safely,  with respect, dignity and awareness.

Think long-term. Antibullying initiatives are too often knee-jerk responses  that don’t take social costs into account: reduced school performance,  psychological problems, impact on family members, health-care costs, legal costs  and schoolyard bullies who grow up to become workplace bullies. If the  government is serious about using our tax dollars to right the wrongs, they need  to move from these reactive policy inoculations to innovative long-term  thinking.

Should your teen be Facebook friends with their teachers?

Parenting in the new millenium – these is the kind of question no one needed to ask ten years ago.

There were fewer grey areas in the student-teacher relationship back then. Exchanging telephone numbers was clearly inappropriate. A thank you note dropped in the office mailbox was fine, as was waving hello in the local shopping mall food court. Aside from the occasional incident or rumour, it was pretty straightforward.

Social media changed things. It blurred the conventional methods of communication, making everything seem much less formal.  These new rules weren’t written yet, and relying on common sense wasn’t always particularly helpful but people mostly seemed to figure it out. Or maybe not.

A new law passed in Missouri makes it illegal for teachers to be friends with their students on any social network that allows private communication. This would include Facebook or Twitter. The idea behind the law, quite predictably, is to protect children and teens from predatory adults, but critics worry the law might actually prevent kids at risk from reaching out to trusted adults who could actually offer support.

It seems to me this is actually a much more complicated issue than the panicky rhetoric indicates. I never friended my students when I was a university faculty member, not because I worried about any risk I might pose to them or they to me, but because there are still meaningful divides between our private lives and our public lives. I didn’t need them to see my posts and photos of my kids any more than I wanted to know more than they cared to share in class or in conversation about their relationship woes, parties or trips to New York.

As my kids would say, it’s a case of TMI (too much information).

I don’t think I’m being naive or old-fashioned when I say that line between public and private is still meaningful. The line itself may shift with the times, but it’s still important, whether it’s between adults in a college classroom or kids and teachers in a high school. I had no issues with being contacts on LinkedIn (they were young adults counting on me for professional references, after all) or using email and the telephone to keep in touch. And after the semesters ended and students moved on, there were always a few who kept in touch and gradually crossed the line towards friendship.

But I don’t know many teachers of children and teens who cross that line. And I worry about making these things into confusing new laws. The Missouri bill specifically bans teachers from friending current and former students – does that mean students who’ve graduated are always off-limits? Can’t we just assume that most teachers and most parents will be on top of this? We never legislated teachers phoning their students’ cell phones. We haven’t worried about them texting each other. We didn’t make it illegal for them to send each other holiday cards (though I’m guessing few ever do).

So no, I don’t think your teen should be Facebook friends with their teachers, for all of these reasons and more. This should be a part of every school and school board’s media policy.  And general common sense about this would benefit from discussion and awareness-raising. This is a case where the adults involved really should know better. After all, they are protecting both themselves and their students.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject, whatever your perspective. Feel free to comment here or message me directly.